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New Years Guide to Finding Love: 5 Killer Moves to Win Him Over
As the New Year approaches and temperatures continue to drop, do you find yourself uncontrollably drawn to anything warm?
A thick woolen scarf, piping hot roasted sweet potatoes, a bubbling hot pot… yet none compare to the warmth of a lovers embrace.
The Holiday Season can feel endlessly long without a partner—tiring of the revelry of crowds, yet struggling to adjust to the solitude of being alone.
Lately, I often hear friends sighing: Ah, another year of failing to find someone…
Hey friends, winter isn’t over yet—nothing is set in stone!
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This time, Little Red Bean is here to share a foolproof guide to winning him over. Follow these 5 steps, and let your story begin this winter.
No grand gestures or meticulous planning needed—just a little thoughtfulness to make him take the bait!
Step 1: Break Social Boundaries
You don’t need to be a social butterfly, but you can’t stay introverted forever. Take the initiative to break those social barriers.
Tip 1: Choose the Right Setting
Meeting the right person requires the right setting. If you want to share common interests, sign up for a workshop youre passionate about. If intellectual connection matters more, explore different themed salons. For those dreaming of a sporty partner, niche activities like frisbee, flag football, or longboarding might bring delightful surprises. And if youre unsure, don’t turn down your friends invitations—or check out the TwoRedBeans app.
Tip 2: Keep Smiling
Lucky girls smile often—this isn’t just empty advice. Science confirms that a cheerful grin makes you five times more likely to catch a guy’s attention. A smile subtly influences his perception, casting you in a glowing light. So, if you’ve got resting grumpy face, practice those pearly whites!
Tip 3: Boost Your Visibility
In idol dramas, the male and female leads always have all sorts of inexplicable chance encounters. Behind the clichéd plot lies a psychological phenomenon—the mere exposure effect, which suggests that frequent exposure can indeed foster affection, bringing you closer without even realizing it. So, making yourself visible is a good strategy, but avoid mindless stalking. Instead, try participating in social activities he enjoys, or even take the initiative to organize events yourself.
Step 2: Polish Your Social Media Presence
In the digital age, your social media profiles are your storefront. Turn that unfinished space into a luxury showroom.
Tip 1: Upgrade Your Profile
Cats, dogs, cartoons, and memes—these hardly leave a positive, memorable impression. A carefully chosen photo of yourself works far better. If you’d rather not use your own picture, find a high-quality image that resembles you. An alluring, feminine vibe can create a powerful psychological cue, making him more engaged when chatting.
Tip 2: Send the Right Signals
A last three days visible setting makes it hard for others to get to know you. Ladies, open up your social feed. Skip mindless reposts and avoid venting negativity. First, learn to drop hints that youre single, ensuring your target picks up on them.
Step 3: Create Emotional High Points
Emotions are the strongest bond between people. Continuously engaging with his emotions will deepen your connection.
Tip 1: Create Suspense
Just like an unfinished TV series leaves you itching for more, incomplete matters tend to stick in our memory—this is the Zeigarnik Effect in psychology. In your interactions, plant more hints and cliffhangers. The curiosity they spark will make him take the initiative. If youve been chatting late into the night, save some topics for next time: Theres something even funnier—Ill tell you tomorrow.
Tip 2: The Favor Exchange
Don’t hesitate to ask him for small, manageable favors. By revealing your vulnerabilities, you make him feel trusted, needed, and valued. For example, seek his advice on a topic he excels in or ask for his input on a workplace dilemma.
Tip 3: Random Rewards
The addictive nature of gaming lies in its random reward mechanism, which taps into our fascination with uncertainty factors—a concept that aligns perfectly with the psychological principle of intermittent reinforcement. Introduce new variables randomly, like planning a surprise date, sending an unexpected letter, or switching up your fashion style… Create little surprises now and then to keep him eagerly anticipating, as if opening a mystery box.
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Tip 4: Reverse Chivalry
Flip the script by extending privileges and courtesies typically reserved for women to men—they’ll be pleasantly caught off guard. Remember his preferences and proactively inform the server of his dietary restrictions when ordering. When parting ways, remind him to text you once he’s home safely.
Step 4: Keep the Senses Engaged
Sensory stimulation is the most direct and memorable. Seize every opportunity during your meetings to fast-forward the progress bar between you two.
Tip 1: Shared Adventures
Many romantic relationships take a significant leap forward after couples engage in thrilling activities together, such as riding roller coasters, visiting haunted houses, playing escape room games, or watching horror movies. This phenomenon can be explained by the suspension bridge effect—when someone encounters a potential romantic interest while nervously crossing a swaying bridge, their racing heartbeat can be misinterpreted as attraction. Thus, the feeling of excitement can be artificially created. A scary atmosphere, novel experiences, or intense physical activities can all serve as powerful catalysts for romance.
Tip 2: Plant an Emotional Anchor
Build a unique connection between you two by associating a specific stimulus (an emotional anchor) with particular emotions or behaviors. Using the principle of conditioned response, this will trigger memories for them repeatedly in the future. For example, you could choose a distinctive café as your regular meeting spot, wear the same perfume every time you see each other, or share a special song through headphones. Locations, scents, sounds—all can serve as emotional anchors. Of course, these anchors should feel natural and genuine rather than forced.
Tip 3: Physical Touch to Deepen the Bond
Physical touch is the best catalyst for love, and naturally occurring contact feels the most comfortable. The brush of shoulders in a group photo, an unintentional hand resting on his while crafting together, casually picking a stray hair or lint off his clothes—these subtle touches quietly spark a chemical reaction that leads to transformation.
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Step 5: Drop the Right Hints
Let the guy take the lead in confessing his feelings, but first, give him enough signals—because guys fear rejection too.
Tip 1: Special Treatment
Compare how you treat him versus other guys—it’s the best reference. Call other guys by their names, but give him a special nickname. When dining out with friends, hand him a napkin without being asked.
Tip 2: Speak Through Gifts
On special occasions, let ambiguous gifts do the talking for you—think chocolates, a razor, or a belt.
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While love has its tricks, sincerity is the ultimate weapon. Wishing everyone a sweet romance!
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Original article in simplified Chinese. Translated by AI.