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Turning 30 Doesn't Mean You Have to Settle — Here's How to Rethink Your Standards

Last Sunday afternoon, six people sat around a hot pot in a San Jose townhouse. A tomato oxtail broth bubbled away, and the steam fogged up the windows. A 32-year-old ...

How to Build Secure Attachment: 7 Behaviors You Can Practice

She stared at the message box, her heart hammering like she'd just finished a sprint. His text came through: "I need some time alone for a few days." Her ...

Why ENFPs Crash and Burn in Love: A Matchmaker's Field Guide

I met R at a friend's dinner. She's a designer, classic ENFP energy—the kind of person who lights up the room without trying. Three weeks after she started dating ...

When He Goes Cold: Why It Might Not Be What You Fear

Three hours have passed. He texted back: "ok." You called him for video last time. He said he's been swamped. You mentioned meeting up this weekend. ...

Anxious Attachment: When Fear Becomes Self-Fulfilling

It's 2:17 AM and Sarah's phone lights up. Again. She hasn't touched it in an hour—it just lit up again. She unlocks anyway. In their chat, her last five messages sit ...

You Don't Need to Fight Less. You Need to Fight Clean.

"We fight a lot." On its own, that sentence tells you almost nothing about whether you'll make it. Decades of longitudinal research on couples keeps landing ...

Should You Move for Love? We Pulled Real Dating Data on 16 North American Cities

"If dating is part of the calculus, which city should I actually move to?" It's the question single Chinese professionals in North America run in the back of ...

Is Being Good at Love Actually a Skill You Can Learn? 5 Books That Say Yes

A note from us: No skipping the homework — these five books are required reading. Already read one? Raise your hand in the comments and tell us what stuck with you. A ...

Don't Let AI Write Your Dating Profile: Use These Prompts to Make It Interview You

The first time J came in for a profile review, he led with a line that was half complaint, half genuine confusion: "My profile's pretty good, right? So why does it ...

Why High-Achieving Chinese Americans Have the Hardest Time Finding Love

There's a paradox running through the North American Chinese community that gets more obvious every year: the more impressive your résumé, the harder it gets to ...